Road to Guilt Free Working Parents


Family Matters

The number one priority in your life is your family. Isn’t this one of the main reasons why we work so hard at our careers? You, like me at times, may feel a strong sense of guilt being a working mom (or Dad). Family matters! I want to share some facts and help you become a guilt free working parent.

Hopefully we are in a position to be following our passion when it comes to our careers, that is ideal, but we do what we have to contribute and feel some self worth and reward. Having passions and goals or purpose coincide is of great pursuit throughout life and is entirely a different topic!

So here we are, spending time away from our little ones, and the minute we even start preparing to walk out the door, the stress levels begin to soar and I, personally, worry if I can make the escape each and every time.

Tips For Guilty Feeling Parents

  • Try not to be too hard on yourself. Give yourself a break and remind yourself that you are contributing to the nest so that your little one(s) can have opportunities available to them, whether it be better childcare or extra activities that will help them grow and learn.
  • Surround your child with your support network and have comfort knowing your child is in good hands. It’s great for children to be exposed to a network of familiar family and friends so that their social skills develop and they are exposed to more variety, thus helping with adapting and coping skills.
  • Have comfort in knowing that you among millions of people like yourself. It is the way of today’s society and therefore there are many support communities out there and resources are easy to find.
  • Lastly, know that your child is OK! He or she is sad to see you go as you are their world and they show you this by crying and clinging. This is all right, let them express their emotions. The child will be just fine after some time. Trust they are in the good hands of the caregiver you so carefully chose. (Or get cameras installed to ease your mind)

When I return from my trips, I spend time with my family of course, but it is more than just time – it is quality, uninterrupted, doing things together, no electronics – time. We are not perfect and we try our best as every moment is very precious.

One thing I would like to work on is adding more quality time with just my husband. I shall tackle this next and perhaps share any tidbits I learn with you as I think this is a very common challenge.

Any tips, please feel free to share!

 

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14 comments on “Road to Guilt Free Working Parents
  1. Merceadez says:

    I really enjoyed reading your article. I’m a working mom and hate it every time I have to leave my son at daycare. He hates it, and always cry’s. But like you said, at least I know he is in good hands and I trust the people who watch him. I think your article will help a lot of parents relieve themselves of some guilt. We all work hard for our children and that’s important.

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  2. Ananomyx says:

    I love your site. My mom has told me in the past how she has felt guilty a lot of times for not being around for certain things in my childhood because of her work, but I try to explain to her that I understand she had to sacrifice a lot to help me and my brother. And I will be forwarding this page to her so she can check it out. Thanks!

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    • Kimberley says:

      Wow – Thanks so very much for your comment today. Life breaks your heart sometimes when it comes to your children. Thank you for visiting and for your comment – it made my day! 🙂 Kimberley

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  3. vivia says:

    Great article. I often feel so guilty at my children’s reaction to working from home. They are really young, 3 years and 19 months and when I am working, I put them upstairs in the playroom. More often than not, one or the other starts to cry or shout ‘Mummy’, and even though I know that they are fine, I still feel like I am guilty of not giving them enough attention.
    Your advice has been great, in helping me realise i just need to chill a bit. I am looking out for their best interest and everything is just fine.

    Thanks
    Vivia

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    • Kimberley says:

      Hi Vivia! So nice to read your message! Lovely to hear comments and share stories – the challenges are endless – but keep us on our toes and the rewards are priceless! Just today I fought all urges to sleep a beautiful day away, (okay, I had no real choice, to be honest), and had a great time with my boy outside. The days together are so precious and we push ourselves for them!

      Two children – my goodness – you are a true hero! All the very best to you and yours!

      Kimberley

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  4. Juan says:

    Great website with useful advise for parents or any member of a family who is too busy to share time with them. My mother used to be an air host and she spent a lot of time travelling. She used to leave my sister and I with our grandmother and we had a blast. When she came back from her trip she always brought something with her, but more importantly, she spent QUALITY time with us. Great website, thank you for sharing!

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    • Kimberley says:

      Hey Juan! Thanks for sharing a comment on my site! It is amazing to hear that your Mom worked away from home and you survived this just fine! Helps to hear that you had a great time at your grandparents home and I am happy to hear you were well taken care of with family love and even treats from far off places too 🙂

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  5. Gina says:

    By the time I have family of my own, I want my business to become successful enough to only have to put in a couple hours a day, having others work for me.
    I’ve been trying to get my boyfriend to start an online business with me so both of us can have the same kind of at-home work in which we can spend a lot of time with family.

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    • Kimberley says:

      Hi Gina! All the best on getting some business’ started – together with your partner or on your own! Gain some time to yourselves and have some freedom! Ideal for sure. Thanks so much for visiting my site and commenting! I appreciate all the support and love to read about others’ stories!

      Good luck, Gina! It’s a bit of work, but I try not to take it too seriously! Life is what we make it!

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  6. Jose says:

    Hey, I’m a teenager of the age of 15 and it was amazing looking at life through the lives of a parent, it was a new experience, and it helped me gain a new perspective in life. I remember when I was young my parents used to leave me with babysitters frequently since they worked all day, it must’ve been hard letting me be cared for by other people other than themselves. Thank you for your post it was short and sweet!

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    • Kimberley says:

      Hey Jose! Thanks so much for leaving a comment and for visiting my website! I imagine it wasn’t easy for your parents as well! You must be one independent teen!

      All the best to you and your endeavors!!

      Take care

      Kimberley

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  7. Cathy says:

    I view this situation from a slightly different angle. I am that child who’s guilty for working too many hours and not spending enough time with my parents.

    Dad is in his 70’s and he’s changing for the better. Mom is in her 60’s and she’s just being diagnosed with diabetes. And I have to work 6 days a week – it’s tiring and unrewarding in terms of family time.

    That’s what makes me started an online business because I can’t think of anything more fulfilling than working from home. When I have my own kids, I would like to watch them grow in front of me.

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    • Kimberley says:

      My dream has changed from flying around the world and now all I want to do is be here with my son for every single moment of his growing years! So my dream is changing and I want to reflect, learn and connect with other busy folks doing the best for their family.

      I love that you took time to share your comment as life is all about striving and doing the best we can! We can learn from one another!

      Take good care. Keep up with life’s journeys, one day at a time.

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