Face the Guilt of Parenting

Plans Ahead, Our Son Turns Two

My son turns two years old in the near future and as a flight attendant, I am not sure if I will be there for this very important day! This is one negative truth when it comes to being a working mother who travels for work. I have a roster reported to me monthly and this is one basis that I regret to have as a planning, organised mother.

If indeed I am sent to a destination and am operating a flight during my son’s birthday, I do have options to weigh. Prior to the time of the event I will bid for days off. Secondly, once I view my roster and if there is conflict, I could send out swap requests and make arrangements that suit me. As a last resort, I could call in sick and spend the day with my beautiful family and make my son’s day very special.

Face The Guilt

At times, in life, we all know that timing doesn’t always work out in our favour and responsibilities get in the way! I have to face the guilty part of me and ask, should I really call in sick if all else fails? I think I can find other options and not let my guilty feelings lead to snap decisions that may not be a great option in the long run and really doesn’t benefit anyone anyway.

Realistic Solutions

This being just an example of many juggling skills we must have, time is a tricky one. We just have to do our best. Remember, there are options and you can make your son or daughter’s birthday or special event a great experience. It is the effort that counts. Maybe there are circumstances where we really cannot make the arrangements we want to, but this is life and disappointments are a very important part of life.

I may have to utilise some of the options I have come up with regarding my son’s upcoming second birthday. This is a milestone birthday, and I have decided to celebrate his “big day” on the closest day to his actual date as possible. I will also have to coordinate with my husband’s schedule. He is also a travelling, working Father! My goodness, our son will not know the difference and at this point, we are exposing him to a celebration he does not yet understand. It’s a day where he will feel very loved and fussed over and he will most likely love it – a fun day with Dad and me!

Okay, this was a more easy issue to solve, but the same rules can apply for various situations. Try not to let guilt cloud your decisions and make the best of every situation. If honest attempts are made and we do all we can to make things happen for our family, rest easier; or as easy as you can when it comes to family matters! Oof, it’s not easy!

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10 comments on “Face the Guilt of Parenting
  1. empowerforchange says:

    I love this post! I am mom to five children and although I do not travel for work there have been many times in the past 13 years that I have had to spend time away from them because of my responsibility to provide for them! I think that the more “we” talk about the things that make us feel guilty the better and the more we are releasing these negative feelings so that they don’t continue to weigh us down! Parenting is a difficult and full-time job with no instructions so we must stick together and your blog does just that!

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    • Kimberley says:

      So nice to hear from you, empowerforchange! 😉 Thank you so much for the support – right back! Thanks for all your kind words. Thank you for visiting my site today, I really appreciate feedback, comments, thoughts and sharing stories. A mother of five!!! You are an amazing woman! All the best to you and yours! Take good care!

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  2. Pitin says:

    Hi Kimberly,

    It is indeed sad to miss your son’s 2nd birthday! My daughter is turning 2 as well in two months and thanks to this article I will now file a leave on that day lol. I will not definitely call in sick as well if all else fails because our kids only celebrate their birthdays once a year. I’ll always choose my kid. I will have plenty of time to work in the future when they are already grown up.”

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    • Kimberley says:

      Yes! These days are precious, aren’t they. We can make every moment count. You are a lovely Mom! All the best to you.

      Thank you so much for your comment and for visiting my site! Hope your daughters’ birthday was amazing and I wish you much success in life!

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  3. RuthM says:

    Be a Mom is tough at the best of times but when you have to juggle work as well, it can be really hard when you have to juggle work, I know the feeling.

    That is what I would is set the birthday for another day.. he won’t know yet, and then you can MAKE sure you are there.

    Good luck and I hope you have a good day!

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  4. Allen Adkins says:

    I truly love this post! I am mom of 4 grown children but at times I had to work 2 or 3 jobs just to support them and I had to miss out on some the experiences of being a mom. I did at times have to stay away from home and let my parents watch them but it still is not the same as me being there but I knew what my responsibility to provide for them was!
    The more “we” talk about the things that make us feel guilty the better and the more we are releasing these negative feelings so that they doesn’t continue to weigh us down that is why I tell my children know that it is hard to always be their for your children but I also let them know that times flies by! Parenting is very difficult but yet is also a full-time job with no instruction manuel so we will make mistakes but all parents have to stick together!
    Being a grandparent is easier than being a parent right now but my kids know I understand what they are going through and I understand the pain they fill and I try to help in every way I can.
    Great site and some wonderful input

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    • Kimberley says:

      Thanks Allen, for taking your time to share! I know my parents were’t able to give my brother and I everything we wanted – I am so grateful for this. I know that my parents were out working for our welfare and we had to sometimes fend for ourselves or go without. I am grateful for this. My parents did everything for us and loved us very much (to this day!). Bless those parents – those ones who who never quit and were creative and giving and humourous and tough!

      4 children?! Wow! You are amazing! xo

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  5. Caroline says:

    My boy has just turned two years old this week.

    When I was pregnant with him, I strongly recall my sister in law (who has 3 boys), telling me that from the moment you find out you are pregnant, you will feel nothing but guilt from that moment on, it is all part of parenting and everyone feels that way. Guilt that you are being too strict. Guilt that you are being too relaxed and spoiling them. Guilt that you don’t spend enough time with them. Guilt that you don’t give them enough independence.

    I’m fed up of the guilt already!!! I agree with you, we just have to make the best of every situation 🙂

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    • Kimberley says:

      YES! We all have diverse upbringings and they build our character! Thanks for visiting today and for sharing! Cheers to us – we are so blessed with our boys 🙂 xo

      Continue to do your best and I wish you much happiness and blessed days!

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